The Five New Love Languages

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Surely you’re familiar with the five love languages which were introduced to our love-obsessed society through the aptly named book, The Five Love Languages. For those unfamiliar with or who would like a refresher, the five love languages are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch.

Basically, they are different ways in which we express our emotions and, depending on what you value the most (which you find out through a brief quiz), you’re labeled as fluent in that particular language. When I took the quiz, I discovered I respond most positively to “acts of service” which means that I love when people do my laundry, feed me, treat me like a beloved child. What is more romantic than someone picking up tampons for you? Nothing.

That being said, I think it’s time we add more languages, because ultimately the original five are too limiting. It’s 2018—23 years since the book came out—and the world has changed. Someone who valued words of affirmation in 1995 didn’t know what a meme was and just how much it could transform their mood. Here are my suggestions of languages to add to the love lexicon:


If your love language is GIFs, you appreciate a strong reference. It’s important for you and your partner to come from similar backgrounds or at least share passions for the same things. Knowing you can boil down a whole conversation into mere seconds of visual content is the foundation of your relationship.

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