Break out in a nervous sweat any time you try to bring up new ideas or preferences in bed? Try these tips to take the awkward out of sex talk with your partner.
No matter how intimate you are under the sheets, actually talking to your partner about what you want and need from your sex life can sometimes make you feel as awkward and vulnerable as if you accidentally showed up at the office in your underwear. The reason is pretty clear, says sex and relationship educator Laura Berman, PhD, author of Loving Sex: The Book of Joy and Passion. “Most of us were taught that sex talk is taboo or should be hush-hush, so we didn’t grow up with the permission to talk about it,” she says. “That’s why sex becomes a very vulnerable, high-stakes component of our relationships and can cause us to question ‘Am I good enough?’ It’s an undercurrent that’s unspoken even with someone you trust.”
But getting over the awkwardness and having an honest conversation can bring the two of you closer—not to mention add some extra zing to your love life. Here are 5 ways to have a sex talk without embarrassment: