These days, this couple seldom party. Instead, they often cook healthier meals at home. They both travel frequently, so when they are in Hong Kong together, they hike twice a month, and attend spin classes at XYZ together. They also do yoga together every fortnight.
And they encourage each other to get up early to work out. “If I don’t get out of bed by 6am, Adam would be like, ‘See, I’m at the gym already’,” Chau says.
The couple also help each other improve their fitness routines. Chau sometimes helps his partner with yoga poses, or asanas, Hawkshaw has been struggling with. The former PR professional also pushed Hawkshaw to get a personal trainer at Ultimate Performance, a gym in Hong Kong’s Central business district, where he works out three times a week.
“Victor would remind me constantly of these goals that I had set out to achieve, like my body composition,” says Hawkshaw.
Chau practises his yoga routines at least five times a week. He spins at XYZ three times a week for the adrenaline rush that yoga does not offer. The 38-year-old also goes to F45 Training in Quarry Bay for its high-intensity workouts.
Both men say they are at their healthiest – and happiest – now.
“Knowing somebody supports your goals, whether they are health-related or career-related … and knowing someone who has your back on those sort of things, which are fundamentally about making you a better person, is ultimately what makes the relationship strong,” says Hawkshaw.
Chau espouses a fitness ethos. “It doesn’t matter if it’s yoga or not, you just have to move, as your body is like a car; if you don’t use it and move it, your body will go rusty and go to waste,” he says.
Chau encourages other couples not to get too serious in such pursuits as counting calories, or being too critical of the other. (Chau admits to being guilty of the latter.) Most of all, he says, it’s imperative you are both having fun.
Research shows how healthy behavioural changes, particularly weight loss in couples, shift dynamics in relationships. In 2013, a study by North Carolina State University and the University of Texas in Austin surveyed 21 couples and found those that were supportive and attuned to such healthy behavioural changes tended to report more positive communications, as well as physical and emotional intimacy.