By Gigi Engle; Photograph by Freepik; Graphics by Christine Frapech
“It was such a natural and liberating experience.”
Remember your first time having sex? That uncomfortable, strange, confusing ordeal? Yeah, we’ve all been there.
Despite what we see in the movies, first time romps are rarely the most orgasm-inducing, rocket-blasting sensual experiences of our burgeoning sex lives. The truth is, no one knows what they’re doing.
And what about having sex with a woman? When two women have sex, it is as unique, awkward, and liberating as any other kind of sex. Sex between two women is valid, strange, and beautiful. But if you’ve never done it before, the experience may seem a little daunting. So, if you’ve been curious about what it’s like to get down with another lady, or want to know what to expect when you finally take the plunge, here are six real women’s stories on having sex with a woman for the first time.
“I had asked around about sex with women for the first time and heard everything from a casual ‘it’s hot’ to ‘it felt like coming home’ to ‘turned out eating pussy wasn’t for me,’ so I was very curious how I would react. I didn’t really ‘react’ one way or another, it just felt very natural and I absolutely liked it. I indeed was struck by the softness of two female bodies against one another and how fulfilling sex can be without a penis in sight, but it was really just a great date followed by great sex. It absolutely confirmed that I was bi/queer but more than anything it just reminded me that as a bi person people are people, and good sex, in general, involves emotional (even casual sex!) and physical intimacy. Tuning into another person’s body and mind doesn’t change based on the body or genitalia of the person you’re sleeping with. 13/10 would do again and did do again.” —Sophie, 29
“One weekend party night, a friend from high school came up to visit me in my college town. We went out to a house party and started dancing together. When we got back to my place to crash, I invited her to sleep in my bed. Then I asked if I could kiss her.
“My heart was stuck in my throat at the idea that I could totally be reading her moves on me wrong and she might say no and reject me, but instead she cuddled up to me and gave me a huge kiss. We started making out and I said to her, ‘I’ve never gone down on a girl and I really want to. Do you want to try?’ She was just as interested. I was so nervous! I didn’t know what I was doing, so I let my instincts take over. It was such a natural and liberating experience. It was also one of the few times I felt dominate and in control with a sexual partner.
“The next morning was a little awkward. Neither of us were identifying as bisexuals, but we also didn’t chalk our experience up to being just a drunken mistake. We never had sex again after that, but it was what started my journey on identifying as bisexual and seeking out female sexual partners.” —Kenna, 30
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